Life these days- it’s hard to stay positive. To fully understand why things happens. To be able to keep faith & look on the bright side. Sometimes I have a hard time believing. With mass shootings killing innocent lives, to hurricanes changing cities, to North Korea, to everything under the sun.
I’ve spent a lot of this past week trying to understand..to try and wrap my head around it. And I won’t lie, it’s been hard. Sometimes you can’t, really can’t, piece together why, or be able to rationalize something that’s going on. Which is something I desperately always try to do.
For most of my life, I’ve always tried my best to “live in the moment” taking in/soaking up each moment, everyday for all that it is. Or find inspiring quotes to help me get through the tough times. But sometimes, that just isn’t enough. I’ve come to accept that feeling, and that it is okay to feel it, you just can’t get stuck in it.
What I’ve learned most about happiness is really three main things:
- You have to find it- it won’t find you. You can sit there and dwell on bad things that are going on around you- or things that have happened to you. Or you can digest it (or try to) and believe that today is a new day, a fresh start. For me, I’m happy because of the little things the way Gatsby’s tail wags when he comes running back to you after chasing the ball, the way the fresh air feels when it fills your lungs in the morning. The way your feet sink in the sand as the waves continue to crash onto you. Being in the arms of the ones you love. Fully embracing each moment I’m in, will usually lead me right down the path to staying positive.
- You have to work for it. I don’t understand a lot of things in life, that have happened to me, or even that go on in the world. I could sit there and focus on them, and try and figure them out. It’s hard not to question life’s meaning, it’s course. But you have to trust it, and embrace it. And focus on the good- make that count for more than the negative/bad things.
- Your mind is a powerful thing. I think the power of positive thinking plays a big part of us. Which is why I turn towards gratitude, towards the people I surround myself with daily, and the people I love. Without one another, I’d be lost (more lost than I already am.) And I know that believing in the positive, really does make it reality.
I view the world through a positive lens cap, which sometimes get fogged, or scratched, and it’s up to me to fix it until it’s clear. It’s up to me, to determine how each day will go. Will it be just on auto pilot? Or will it be cherished? Fully embracing each moment as it comes. I think you all know what I constantly make an effort to do.
Be kind. Be a friend. Follow your heart. Follow your passions. And it all falls together.
And remember, your happiness is in your own hands. You decide that every day.
~ XOXO, the positivity junkie, Amanda