Living a happy and fulfilling life – a true story by me – Amanda, the blonde out of water. First of all, I’d like to start off with this disclaimer I by no means am saying that I hold all of life’s great secrets or actually know what I am talking about in the slightest, but hey I try. Living a happy and fulfilling life is easier said than done. But here’s what I work towards, daily, and if one thing helps you, then my job here is done.
Are you the one who thinks “Is this it? Was I put on this planet just to pay bills, work long hours and never have enough time in my busy schedule to have fun?” Or maybe the person who thinks, “once I get the ________ (raise, promotion, house, car), then I’ll be happy.” Thinking either of these ways prevents us from living life to the fullest and being happy.
I’ve spent most of my adult life struggling with this question, about how I can live a fulfilling life and just be happy. I think simply put a good place that I started was to try and establish healthy boundaries, staying optimistic, and pursuing what I love.
I do believe that is where fulfilment AND happiness lies.
Do you ever ask yourself any of these: How do I get more fulfillment from life? What is a fulfilling life? How do I become more fulfilled? How do you increase happiness in daily living? How can I be happier? What is the secret to happiness in life? Does being intentional make you happier? What is intentional happiness? Then I think these ideas can help you figure out all these, or maybe give you an idea.
Keep staying positive/optimistic top of mind
Let me geek out a little here for you all…from what research I’ve read positive and/or optimistic thinking leads to increased performance and accomplishment in every aspect of your life. The brain performs best when we are in a positive mindset. When we feel optimistic about our future, we are more energized, focused and engaged. This allows us to show up more fully at home, work and in relationships. Keep in mind, this is not going to just come to you. It needs to be an effort. A daily, hourly, whatever you need effort.
Being intentional is something that I try my hardest to do, but when it all boils down your life is all dictated by the choices you make. Some of those choices may seem inconsequential, like what you wear to work that day, or some larger, like, do I want to quit my job. Either way, they all add up to your life. Without being intentional, just living on auto-pilot leads to stress, frustration, and aggravation in your life. While on the other hand, living with intention leads to more success, happiness, peace, abundance, and fulfillment. Basically, intentional living means having an aim for how you want to live your life and having an intention to live it that way.
This goes in conjunction with staying positive. By complaining, you are reinforcing a negative state of mind and gets you into a constant cycle of unhappiness. I do believe there is a difference between the need to vent, and the constant complaining with no actions behind any change. Vent and do something about it, or stop complaining.
The very opposite of complaining would be showing gratitude. Being grateful and showing it helps your happiness and gives you more optimism. I love my five minute journal which requires you to write about things you are grateful for every morning.
Focus on your health
This doesn’t only include working out and eating right. Although yes, I do encourage both of those. Treat yourself by eating well and working out. But also treat yourself by not beating yourself up over an oreo here and there. Or from missing a workout to sleep in. Listen to your body and it will tell you what it needs.
Learn to say no
I will be the first to admit that I SUCK, yes absolutely suck, at this. So I completely understand that this is a lot harder than it sounds. I also understand that once you get past the fear or the feeling of letting someone down that it can be empowering. The goal is to eventually (for me too here folks) be able to say no without having to justify it – and not feel guilty about it!
Stop making life so difficult
Don’t sweat the small stuff. Sometimes, life is meant to be simple. Stop overanalyzing everything and making every decision complicated and complex. Life isn’t meant to be filled with stress aka just chill out.
I’d love to hear about what you do to live a more fulfilling and happier life. As I mentioned, I don’t hold all of life’s great secrets or actually know what I am talking about in the slightest.
~ XOXO, the happier & fulfilled, Amanda // Blonde out of Water